Rating Your Stressors

Hey everyone, Happy New Years, Valentine's, Black History month and Women's History month! My first post for today will be about stressors. It can be therapeutic to write them down to see them in front of you rather than just in your head or in the moment feelings. Seeing them written down can help you prioritize which are affecting you the most and which you can tackle the most directly. Only focus on what you yourself can control in this moment.

For example: 'I have a goal weight I need to make by the end of the year and my slow progress has me stressed.'

Rather than focusing on the deadline, focusing on acknowledging current progress outside of weight (longer stamina, going down a clothes size, better sleep etc), can help keep a positive outlook on your weight loss journey. Taking a step back and re-evaluating the current changes you've been maintaining and decide which ones you want to switch up and bit to see if that gives you better results scale wise.

Practice every two-three months to track progress and how it changes throughout the year. List the top 10 stressors in your life. Then rank the stressors in order from the most stressful to the least stressful. This tip is a mixture of practices I do with my psychologist and what I've learnt in my Health Psychology course so far this semester. State the reason why you ranked your most stressful as the most stressful. Below is my current personal stressors list.

Finances
Physical health issues
Mental health issues
Transportation
Family dynamic
Work
My mom’s well being
My youngest brother’s well being
Club responsibilities
Social life

My finances are my most stressful stressor due to the impact it has on all of my other stressors. With more money I would be better able to keep on top of my health, transportation would be a non issue in my budget, and I would be able to do more socially. Being able to contribute more would relieve stress from my mom and oldest younger brother- who share a larger financial burden. To address this stressor, I will be working extra shifts during school breaks and pick up small odd jobs like at the school food pantry.

What are your stressors?

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